It's a long weekend and Friday I was cleaning house in preparation of my hubbys Bday party.  I walked around all day long picking up and cleaning. A friend of ours I will call her K, offered to come over and keep me company and help a little. I was looking forward to that but knew that I should do the hard yucky stuff. So i was busy all day long cleaning and decided she could keep me company while I dust out the big cario cabinet. Just dusting light easy you know. Well she was having troubles with errands and came over in the evening and that was ok. She told me she would come over the next day early before the party and help me since she was too tired to right then since it was so late. I was like thats perfectly ok. Well yesterday morning I woke up early and started baking the cake and doing the last picking up and decorating and decided I would do the cabinet slowly and so I put on some good music and did the dusting and sorting all by myself. I heard nothing from K, all day long. I decided I would not call her and be a nuisance, I just let it fly. Well I got everything done by myself and the party started at 3. By 4 we had a houseful and no sign of K. I finally called and left a nice message and asked of she was still planning on coming. I still heard nothing. Then around 8pm some good friends showed up that wanted to see her too and so I had C. call her. Nothing...... she left a message and we then heard nothing the whole night.

Well today I feel like K. disrespected me. Should I feel this way? Is it wrong of me to feel like I was let down? She lives 5 minutes from me and didn't even bother to call me and tell me her change of plans. It's now Sunday and I still have heard NOTHING. I am kind of pissed off. I mean to offer me the assistance no matter how little, I was looking forward to it even if she didn't help me and just hung out. I must not be a good enough friend to her to be treated with respect. I would not have been mad at her her for changing plans at all. It would be respectful to call me and let me know. I mean I did everything myself anyway. I was just looking forward to the company. I would never get anyones hopes up and then pull a no show and not even call or even answer my phone. Was that shitty of her or am I just being a drama queen?

I don't know, Amanda - did something happen to her to prevent her from calling you? If she only lives 5 minutes away, and no one has heard from her, has anyone thought to check on her to make sure she hasn't hurt herself and is lying unconscious somewhere in her home? Or, did she actually go out of the house to do her own thing, and just didn't bother to inform anyone? Or, did she leave the house and maybe got into an accident? These are things that I tend to try to look for before I jump on someone; however, if this is a habit with your friend, then obviously, that's totally different. But maybe just check on her to see if she's okay, and if she is, then give her what-for for not even calling you... Just my opinion, my friend...

Turns out she decided to go out with her inlaws instead and not call me. And yes this is a habit for her. Not like I will jump all over her but she is the type of person that suits herself all the time instead of thinking about others. We will see what she tells me today to cover her butt. I am not calling her she can call me and if she wants to get together she can come over here. I have been busting my ass helping her unpack her new place and helping her decide how to put things. She is the person with the old schoolhouse near me..... so I am not pleased. This is not a bridge she wants to burn so close to her.

Awww Amanda, that just sucks. Kinda makes ya wonder what the word "friendship" means to people, eh? That is sooooo not cool...

If I was in this situation, I just wouldn't help her with anything anymore. Either that, or I would do to her exactly what she did to me, and see how she liked it. Maybe she might not get the hint, but then again, maybe she might - ya know? I feel bad for you that you got let down like this, my friend; it's not right, and that's a fact.